We as women, and men too (I think), are told constantly to be ourselves and love ourselves. We are taught ways to boost our self-esteem and our self-image. It's easy as Christians to think that we have to love ourselves ("Love one another as you love yourself."). But really the idea of boosting self-image is a very selfish one.
I've been struggling with a lot of lies receantly and I had heard that it is good to go through the Bible and find verses that combat all the lies you are believing. Now, I am in no way knocking this practice, I think it is a very good one. However, for the kind of lies I was struggling with, there aren't really any verses to expose them as what they are. For example: nowhere in the Bible does it say that Christy Korthals is a fun person to be around.
Dictionary.com defines self-image as follows:
self-im·age
n. The conception that one has of oneself, including an assessment of qualities and personal worth.
In "Only a Woman," by Terri McFaddin, McFaddin says "self-image is based on feelings and perceptions that may have nothing to do with whom God intended you to be." She says that self-image is very much culture based - because of what our culture values we feel we are the wrong size, shape, body type, and have the wrong personality, sense of humor and whatever else. McFaddin writes of our "God-image," and she defines this as "the person God intended you to be from the womb - the person with specific gifts, purpose, and calling."
When we are worried about our weight, our appearance, and our personality - thinking no one really loves us or cares about us, we are worried about how the world sees us. We are worried about how we are rated in the culture we were raised in. When really what we should be worried about what God thinks of us, and how He rates us. And the fact is, He thinks we are pretty darn sweet!
"just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be HOLY and WITHOUT BLAME before Him in love, having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will"
~Ephesians 1:4-5 (NKJV)
"God purchased you at a HIGH price. Don't be enslaved by the world."
~1 Corinthians 7:23 (NLT)
So let's quit boosting our self-image and start boosting our God-image. I don't want this world to define my worth or my value. So really why should I even care about my self-image? The fact is, I don't! Well, at least I'm working on not caring. It IS going to be a struggle and it isn't somthing that I can just decided to do today and plan on doing the rest of my life. Like most of the Christian life it requires a daily dying to self and choosing to see myself as God sees me. And seeing the potential God has for me - who He has predestined me to become! It will be a long, hard struggle, but one I am excited to make!
ARE YOU WITH ME?